Do you and your partner have silly repetitive arguments, seemingly about nothing, that you don’t know how to change or stop? Do you get confused about what you all are actually fighting about? Does it sometimes feel like the only person who sets you off is your partner? Do you find yourself reacting hugely to small things your partner says or does? Are you feeling sad and hopeless? Are you wondering where the fun has gone? Do you find you are living more like roommates than like a couple?
Perhaps you feel like your partner hardly understands you anymore. Maybe you and your partner are having difficulty communicating, and every little thing is turning into an argument. You might feel pent-up anger and resentment, leading to more and more fights. Many people feel hurt as a relationship changes.
Perhaps you sometimes feel bored and restless and wish you were having more fun together. You may be less intimate emotionally and sexually. Maybe you find yourself so busy and overwhelmed at the end of the day that you are just too tired to spend time together and feel as though you’re drifting apart.
These are not uncommon situations for couples to go through. Sometimes we just need a little perspective or some support in sorting through the conflicts in our relationships. Things can get much more challenging, when you add children, career changes and financial difficulties. Or you might have gone through more serious issues, such as a death of a loved one or infidelity. It can be hard to move past these painful situations without some help.
If This Sounds Like Your Relationship, There Is Hope
My name is Rachel McDavid. The experienced therapists at Rachel McDavid & Associates are trained in couples therapy. I also have had training in mediation and conflict negotiation as well as “Nonviolent Communication,” a model developed by Marshall Rosenberg, which is an approach I find extremely useful in working with couples. It provides tools to be more empathic and understanding. When you have more empathy for yourself and your partner, you can resolve issues and begin to feel closer and more connected.
Many Couples Have Struggles
Feeling disappointed and sad about your relationship can impact your overall outlook on life. Many people have gone through similar periods of frustration and pain in their relationships, and often feel angry and bitter, especially if they have tried things to reconnect with their partner and haven’t found them helpful. You are not alone in your desire to create positive change and develop a deeper sense of connection with your loved one.
Your Relationship Can Change
Most relationships go through tough times, and sometimes it is hard to get through these times on our own. We can get stuck, unable to return to the togetherness we once felt. Sometimes it just helps to have a third person with a different perspective listen to our issues, a couples therapist. This is where Rachel McDavid and Associates can help.
In our sessions, you can:
• Learn to develop greater tools for empathy and understanding.
• Develop more effective communication skills.
• Heal past wounds that get in the way of how you feel towards each other.
• Learn to take responsibility for your perceptions and projections.
• Better understand the dynamic that goes on between you.
• Become closer both physically and emotionally.
• Have more love, affection and joy in your relationship.
Perhaps you feel as though couples therapy can help you and your partner reconnect in your relationship. But, you still may have questions or concerns…
I Don’t Know if My Partner Will Come. It Seems Like Too Much Work.
Many people worry that couples therapy will demand too much time and energy, especially if you are already feeling emotionally depleted. And often it can be difficult, especially when hurts are uncovered. But I have seen couples work through their pain and frustration. You can gain hope and energy as you and your partner begin feeling closer and more connected.
Don’t People Go To Couples Therapy To Break Up?
A few people go to couples therapy to help end their relationship, but in my experience, most people come because they want to do what it takes to get their relationship back on track.
I Don’t Know That Anything Can Really Help Us; There’s Been Such a Breach in Trust.
I have seen couples who have completely lost the ability to trust work through their issues and get to a place where their relationship was better than ever. It takes work and perseverance, but with time and effort, many couples can get through almost anything.
We’ve Been to Couples Therapy Before, and It Just Didn’t Work for Us.
It can be difficult to try something again that wasn’t successful in the past. Different therapists have different approaches to couples therapy, and not all approaches work for everyone. It’s important to find someone with training who you feel comfortable with and have a good rapport with. Many therapists and counselors are only trained in individual work and have learned their couples and family work on their own. We here at Rachel McDavid & Associates are specifically trained in family and couples therapy, as well as individual therapy.
There Are So Many Couple’s Therapists. Why Should We Choose You?
It’s true there are many couple’s therapists in New York, with many different styles and approaches. It’s important to find someone you are comfortable with in order to create a safe environment for you and your partner to be open and honest. When you feel free to communicate and share, you can do work of healing and growth.
I personally use empathy to translate what I understand people to say, which can allow the person speaking to feel understood. This can also help you and your partner hear each other more fully. Empathy has helped many people have a greater capacity for hearing their partner, which can then lead to better understanding and connection.
I am very open to all kinds of people and situations and like to create an environment where anyone can feel welcome.
You Can Reconnect With Your Partner Again
• Feeling lonely and disconnected from your partner can create a real strain on you and the rest of your life.
• Fighting more and more can lead to resentment and bitterness.
• Often unresolved issues can turn into irreparable damage.
• Your problems aren’t going to change unless you do something about them.
• We can help you and your partner work through your issues and create a better sense of understanding for both of you.
I invite you to contact me at 212.500.0856 or firstname.lastname@example.org with any questions you might have about Couples Therapy NYC.